10 Top Tips for Busting Stress
Become More Active – any physical activity can help to relax your mind, enabling you to deal with your problems more effectively. Exercise has proven benefits to health and can help with all aspects of your wellbeing. Doing a bit more than you do now and trying experiences which mean you are moving more, can really help you with your co-ordination, and help you to stay fitter and more mobile for longer in your life.
Take Control of Problems and Issues – do not focus on the problem itself but focus instead on possible solutions as what you focus on is what you will feel. Feeling overwhelmed can lead to negative thoughts and a lack of good wellbeing. Discovering options and finding your own solutions to satisfy a problem or issue can be very empowering. Focus on what is good and try not to focus on the bad, recognise there what the issue is and take steps towards finding a solution. Ask others about their experiences and don’t be afraid to ask for help, you are human and we all have things to deal with, so remember that you are not alone in that.
Keep in Touch with People – that good old saying a problem shared is a problem halved is most certainly true and can help you to see things in a different way, and help you to realise that you are not alone. Sharing problems can help you to find more solutions, some of which you may never have thought about. Talking to people can help you to release stress and help you to gain new or alternative ideas for coping, as what is good for one person may not work for another, but the more people you talk to the more solutions you may discover.
Take Time Out – make time to do things that you enjoy, that could be anything g from physical exercise, gardening, riding a bike, reading, relaxing, cooking, socialising etc. anything that makes you feel good can help you to relax unwind and find a sense of oneself. Take the time to appreciate what you enjoy and try new and different things whenever you can. Make sure you look after yourself, and plan activities that you know can make you feel good (and DO NOT feel guilty about this, you will be better able to manage stress afterwards).
Set Personal Challenges and Goals– Learning new things can help you to build confidence. Arming yourself knowledge and information can help you to be more proactive and to become more resilient as a person. Having a sense of achievement is very important, and we all have the need to grow and learn. Try to set yourself some targets of steps you can take to help you deal with a particular problem.
Avoid Unhealthy Habits – Unhealthy habits can be used as a coping mechanism (especially misusing drugs and alcohol for escapism or smoking) however in the long term they do not solve your problems they create new ones! Moderation is also a key factor in ensuring positive wellbeing, too much or too little of things can be destructive to wellbeing. Try and find a balance that feels right for you and if you know you do something too much or not enough, be honest with yourself and look for ways to improve these habits. You are a very important person and you owe it to yourself to take good care.
Helping Others– helping people who are worse off than yourself or in a similar situation can help you to put things in to perspective. Doing a simple good deed for others can really give you a positive sense of wellbeing and make you happy. Getting involved in helping others can really offer you an extra sense of purpose and feelings of being worthy increasing self-esteem. Help others in order to actually help yourself!
Stay Positive – think about something good and focus on how that makes you feel. Look at the positive things that you are grateful for in life. Every morning write down a list of 3 things which are good in your life. This will help you to start your day more positively. Also remember that if you spend too much time worrying about something that never happens then you are wasting energy you could use on making good things happen in your life; and if you spend worrying about something then it does actually happen, then you will have to deal with the same feelings and emotions twice! Although it is good to anticipate problem and be prepared, actually obsessing or worrying about things can make you feel very negative. Try and avoid anticipating negative things which may happen and focus instead on what makes you feel good or what potential solutions may be.
Time Management – Don’t bury your head in the sand if a deadline for something is looming, either try and rearrange to take the pressure off and be upfront if you are not coping, and talk to people involved. Try to make targets realistic so as to not put yourself under too much pressure. Don’t take on more than you can realistically do as this will make you feel de-motivated if you don’t achieve it. Make sure you get enough sleep and try and set yourself a schedule that works for you, including time to relax, socialise, work and live. Try and find a balance that works best for you and make time for yourself.
Accept The Things which are Beyond Your Control – To do this you must first realise what is an external factor that is affecting you, and what is happening regardless as to you and how you are feeling. Sometimes there are situations that you have no control over. Therefore there is no point in wasting your energy fighting it, instead put your energy in to recognising and accept that you are only in control of yourself and how you do or don’t react and what you do or don’t do about something’s. Always try to focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t do! You may not be able to stop a painful health condition from flaring up, but you can decide to focus on what will alleviate the symptoms, rather than sitting and focusing on how much something hurts. Remember what we focus on is what we will feel!